ladymirth: (godless liberal)
Guys, guys, guys you gotta read this: Sam Schulman's views on gay marriage.

The entity known as "gay marriage" only aspires to replicate a very limited, very modern, and very culture-bound version of marriage. Gay advocates have chosen wisely in this. They are replicating what we might call the "romantic marriage," a kind of marriage that is chosen, determined, and defined by the couple that enters into it. Romantic marriage is now dominant in the West and is becoming slightly more frequent in other parts of the world. But it is a luxury and even here has only existed (except among a few elites) for a couple of centuries--and in only a few countries. The fact is that marriage is part of a much larger institution, which defines the particular shape and character of marriage: the kinship system.

Marriage as an affirmation of love? What an idea!

...marriage is concerned above all with female sexuality. The very existence of kinship depends on the protection of females from rape, degradation, and concubinage. This is why marriage between men and women has been necessary in virtually every society ever known. Marriage, whatever its particular manifestation in a particular culture or epoch, is essentially about who may and who may not have sexual access to a woman when she becomes an adult, and is also about how her adulthood--and sexual accessibility--is defined.

Nowadays we define it with a set of brass knuckles, a well aimed stilletto heel to the essentials and a can of pepper spray. 


This most profound aspect of marriage--protecting and controlling the sexuality of the child-bearing sex--is its only true reason for being, and it has no equivalent in same-sex marriage. Virginity until marriage, arranged marriages, the special status of the sexuality of one partner but not the other (and her protection from the other sex)--these motivating forces for marriage do not apply to same-sex lovers.

Because gay people are all polygamous commitment-phobes or because they like and respect women enough not to enslave them with chastity belts? YOU decide. 

Now to live in such a system, in which sexual intercourse can be illicit, is a great nuisance. Many of us feel that licit sexuality loses, moreover, a bit of its oomph. Gay lovers live merrily free of this system. Can we imagine Frank's family and friends warning him that "If Joe were serious, he would put a ring on your finger"? Do we ask Vera to stop stringing Sally along?

No, I can't imagine Frank's family telling him something like that because they aren't conservative fucktards who want to  impose their misguided moral values on other people. Also - ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS?!

Even in modern romantic marriages, a groom becomes the hunting or business partner of his father-in-law and a member of his clubs; a bride becomes an ally of her mother-in-law in controlling her husband.


marriage is a part of the kinship system, and kinship depends on the protection, organization, and often the exploitation of female sexuality vis-à-vis males.

So, what  he's ultimately saying is that marriage is an outmoded  concept created by the cult of the patriarchy to oppress and control women, which gay people should be denied for their own good so they can continue with their merrily polygamous, promiscous, non-women hating, non-controlling lifestyle? 

I...think I can actually get behind that. If I fry my braincells a bit. 

I thank [ profile] anti_feminism for linking this and bringing such joy into my life. 
ladymirth: (yay kermit)

I got a job at Asia Digest. Newly launched YA and family-oriented magazine (no relation to Reader's Digest) flat structured company, informal environment, few other co-workers (one of whom is a good friend), good pay, boss open to suggestions. So much potential that my inner editor gene, dormant since I left the school newspaper, is going utterly haywire. I have to keep telling it to pipe down and keep my head down and get to know the people first, before gradually suggesting changes. I WILL NOT BLOW THIS, DAMN IT. 

My own enthusiasm is scaring me. It might be my undoing.  Must keep reminding self that I am simply a newly-hired  wet behind the ears newbie and must act accordingly, flat structure be damned. 

Of course, I'm still going to contribute to  The Sunday Times, because hello, it's the Sunday Times and having a few published pieces in there to show off  in my portfolio is nothing to sneeze at. 

In conclusion: Hee! *hugs self* 

*hugs flist for good measure* 

*prepares for horrible things to happen, now that the 'good' portion of the day is over* 
ladymirth: (contained excitement)
Red letter day in Sri Lanka today. 

The Sri Lankan government managed to capture LTTE capital Kilinochchi today.  Defence Wire confirmed it  first thing this morning. 

And there's already a Wikipedia article on it! 

The President addresses the nation.

Citizens use opportunity to prolong New Year's celebrations by setting off the last of their firecrackers and dancing in the streets. Because the ideal time to dance around the streets of Colombo is when you've just majorly pissed off a bunch of terrorists who happen to have a bunch of suicide bombers stashed away in the city. It's living proof against the theory of natural selection. 

Tigers kill a minister and bomb a high security zone - in front of my Dad's office!  

Thankfully, he got held up at work, and was not on the road at the time of the blast. However the roads are blocked/ closed off now and it'll take him a miracle to get out of there. Here's hoping nothing else gets blown up at least until he and my sister (who is at class at the mo) are safely home, but that may be too optimistic. Colombo is on high-security alert, but those fuckers are now desperate, furious and unpredictable and they've already managed to bomb a high security zone. 

It's going to be "a hot time in the old town tonight". 

This caught my eye: "Now the troops can do what the rebels did to them 10 years ago. Once they consolidate their positions in and around the town, they can set their sights on Elephant Pass, the strategic land bridge leading to the Jaffna peninsula."

I remember when Elephant Pass fell to the Tigers in 2000. The battle of Elephant Pass will be remembered as the biggest military debacle in the history of the Sri Lankan military. In the end 2403 soldiers and 3024 rebels had been killed. Another 357 soldiers were wounded.  At the time  I, like a lot of people, was screaming for blood. But now I think differently. Even if we do get it back,  sooner or later they're going to try to  get it back again and there will be more bloodshed. Back and forth, back and forth - I'm sick of it.  Who cares if we get it back if we can't hang on to it for another two administrations running? And while a part of me want all the terrorists to be die painful and humiliating deaths, another part of me remembers that the majority  of the LTTE are children who have been  kidnapped and co-erced into their ranks and been brainwashed. 

It's been going on for 25 years and in all likelihood will go on for another 20 more until the economy is in shambles and anybody with two braincells to rub together has got the hell out of dodge and the country is left to  criminals and dictators. 

I'd like to have hope...but I don't see how I can. The children of my generation have grown up with this war, and we no longer remember any other way to be. We haven't stopped fighting since 1971.
ladymirth: (self-destruct)
Church persecutes former member for "sexually immoral" relationship.

Way to undermine everything good about organized religion, you fuckheads.  

Here. Have some funny to counterbalance the rage

My favourite is Two Damsels One Chalice. XD
ladymirth: (godless liberal)

Arundati Roy tells us the true story behind "India's 9/11". (I swear I snort everytime I hear that phrase.) 

As if you needed any more reasons to love her. 

And just to cheer you up after that incisive dissection of human asshattery, he be some Pratchett quotes:

"I'll be more enthusiastic about encouraging thinking outside the box when there's evidence of any thinking going on inside it."

ladymirth: (Default)
Arthur C. Clarke's dead

Sri Lanka has always regarded him with a love bordering on reverence. My school used to be next door to his former residence and I used to sometimes catch a glimpse of him in his library out a classroom window. And yet I never got around to reading any of his books. 

I'm glad he had such a long and fulfilling life, and I'm proud to be a citizen of a country that he loved and that loved him. 

Rest in peace.
ladymirth: (AHBL - no!)

Shooting at Illinois University, 6 dead, 16 injured

This is the fourth shooting at a US university within a week. 


It's enough to make you think people are being possessed or something. "Freaky" is too mild a word. 

One thing's for sure though. It doesn't matter how many people die, the White House is never going to be able to push through a federal gun-control bill successfully. 

The thing is, there is no such thing as "arming the innocent", because there is no such thing as innocent. Anyone, anywhere is capable of murder, given the right incentive, pushed hard enough. Sri Lanka is far from being the safest country in the world, but at least we don't live in fear of Ordinary Joe suddenly going wacko and killing people at random. The only people in this country carrying guns are soldiers and policemen. 

It's not just Sri Lanka. It's a fact that countries with strong gun control laws do not have many shooting incidents. There are those people who point out that there have been more shootings in states which have stronger firearms regulations than those which do not, but I say that it is simply indicative of the fact that gun-control laws are only effective as long as they are made federal laws and not just state laws. And don't even bring up the Prohibition, unless you want to tell me exactly how you're going to bootleg a rifle and find a wide market for it amongst the general public. The only people who really need guns are people who are afraid of other people's guns. Weapons are not a vice, they are not alcohol, and they sure as hell aren't as easily accessible in most parts of Europe. The lack of gun trade do not make a serious dent in the economy, either. So please don't bring up the Prohibition as a counter-example to the efficiency of gun-control laws, unless you want to de-regulate drugs and prostitution as well.

Bottom line, if you want to "arm the innocent", teach them to use tazers, pepper spray and iron rings. If somebody does elect to go berserk with one of those, at least the death toll will be minimal. I know the saying is that nobody ever raped a .38, but nobody raped a small but efficient carving knife either.  

The following is a response I got off the LnCMBs on the gun-control topic a few months back:

If there were more upstanding citizens with the responsibility and skill around allowed to carry a firearm, mass murders would NOT happen either simply because the instigator would not live long enough to kill a lot of people.

Right. Well, we should just make sure we sell guns to proportionately more "upstanding citizens with responsibility and skill" rather than ordinary people doing ordinary things who may or may not go totally ballistic out of the blue one day. Although now exactly we are supposed to judge that, I have no clue. 

*scrambles off soapbox*

ETA: Not to misunderstand my remark about knives, because they are lethal and problematic things as well, and should be handled as responsibly as any gun. Come to think of it, rather than weapons, it would be better to instate a nation-wide mandatory martial arts program for all students (especially girls). The thing about teaching martial arts correctly is that it teaches you how to control your impulses, not just to kick the crap out of the other guy. Although that is certainly a bonus. =)

ladymirth: (AHBL - no!)

Sri Lanka celebrated her 60th Anniversary of Independence the day before yesterday. Here is Prabhakaran's gift to the nation: 

Bomb Blast at Fort Railway Station

Death Toll  rises; nine schoolchildren killed

Last rites for Slain Baseball Team Today.

Tigers and tears have no regard for race.

I have many friends from D.S Senanayake College. I can't imagine what they must be going through. It could very easily have been any of my own friends on that platform. It could have been me.

This was the terrorist group that George Bush, Eric Solheim and Ranil Wickramasinghe wanted to make us to make peace with. George Bush announced his stand while he was dropping bombs on Afghanistan hoping to hit at least Osama Bin Laden's pet dog, if he had one, and Ranil Wickramasinghe bought peace talks to the table only months after the Tigers reclaimed the Elephant Pass, killing over a 1000 Sri Lankan soldiers. I wish it were their dead bodies on that platform instead of innocent school kids. 

Who is the LTTE?

You don't negotiate with monsters. You hunt them down and kill them until there isn't a single one of them left to spawn another. 

I don't believe there is a God, because if there is, animals like these wouldn't be allowed to live. 

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